I’ve finally figured it out!  I don’t hate the term pansexual.  I’m actually just fine with it.  It’s taken me a long time, but I’m finally here.  It doesn’t bother me at all when someone labels themself pan-, which is a pretty big relief to me since that’s how at least one of my partners identifies.

On the other hand, I cannot stand the people who created the term.  Or perhaps I should be clearer, since I can’t say with absolute certainty what those first people were thinking: I can’t stand the attitude of the people that evangelize the term, today.

Apologies at the length of this.  Apparently I have feelings on the topic.

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onlytowardschaos:

femmedandy:

IS THIS SOME GLORIOUS ALTERNATE UNIVERSE WHERE EVERYONE EVERYWHERE WEARS TWEED, DRINKS FROM FLASKS, AND RIDES BICYCLES? IF SO, PLEASE SEND ME THERE. POSTHASTE. 

I ship ‘em.

Sorcyress, this is for you.

inurashii:

• Marginalized people want you to feel bad and guilty for being white, cismale, heterosexual, born into money, etc.
• Marginalized people believe that they are automatically better than privileged people.
• Privilege is a direct measure of how good your life is.
• The most privileged person in a conversation is automatically wrong because they lose at oppression olympics.
• Hating the impact of privilege is the same as hating privileged people.
• Censure is the same thing as censorship.

Attention privileged people: no one is saying these things.

I read social justice stuff every day. Some of it is calm and compassionate, some of it is angry and biting. While I don’t always agree with every SJ blogger I encounter, pretty much none of them are saying the above things. Even the really pissy ones. Yet over and over, in every single post, I see commenters waltz in and complain about how they feel insulted or attacked for being called ‘privileged’.

It’s very strange and it makes me wonder how this narrative gets built.

Very, very well put.